Last week i wrote and email to mel from
stirrup queens & sperm palace jesters, and asked her regarding the future of this blog. i know some of you noticed that i stopped posting as much when i got pg. and i did a couple "i wanted to document my pregnancy but.." posts b/c i didn't know how to post abt the scary and happy parts of the pg w/o maybe offending someone. that's always been a trait of mine.. empathy. and that came in to full force when i saw myself pregnant after my 1st IVF, yet had so many IF buddies still TTC after so long and so many attempts.
so i asked mel how she did it and how i could maybe make the transition. i had made the change of the blog name and description, but it didn't seem like enough. well, she replied and here is what she said...
http://stirrup-queens.blogspot.com/2009/03/bonus-barren-advice-thirty-two.html
if there is anyone else out there w/ advice or feedback, you're more than welcome to let me know!!
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Susy - I know this has been something that has bothered you and many of us because we don't want to be the "one" that gets pregnant and then everything is about them and their kids because we have all been on the other side of that; however, having said that - try to remember that people come in and out of your life and will continue to do so based on the role they are supposed to play in your path. There will always be the ones that stay for the duration and then there will be the others who are around for a certain period or event and then they are gone again. That's ok because they have completed their mission of helping you deal with/celebrate/handle whatever was going on at the specific point in life.
You are SUCH an awesome person and while I am completely with you on the transition from being "that girl" to "mommy", remember that while your prayers were answered - it doesn't make you any less or more than someone who didn't struggle at all or is still in the struggle. Infertility isn't something that one can walk away from even after you've been blessed with a child/ren. It affects us all for the rest of our lives and we will always remember what it felt like to be in that struggle even while we are celebrating the milestones of our childrens lives.
Stay strong and true to yourself honey... no one will fault you for being happy or excited about your new little blessings!
Love you honey!
I agree...it's not an easy position to be in, but in the end you will do what feels right to you. It's great that you're considerate of others' feelings, but when it comes down to it, it's most important to make yourself happy. After struggling with TTC & IF for so long, no one would expect anything other than utter excitement about your tiny blessings! We bring babies into this world for many reasons and we're proud of them and all their accomplishments. If we didn't share our happiness (and our gripes!), we'd burst at the seams! Your true friends will stick by your side and celebrate your happiness, even if it pains them. Those who struggle with this will move on, and soon enough your audience will be comprised of just those people who genuinely want to hear what you have to say, no matter what it is. Good luck in your transition...I'm here to stay.
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