2.02.2009

a lot in my head but i just don't get on to get it out

  • last week, i only posted a couple of days of the EXCITING 36 week mark b/c i had my SIL M here most days to hang out. she was due back to work today after a 6wk postpartum stay at home w/ baby A. i'm not sure if she just needed a break from being at her house or what, but it was nice that she was stopping by here. we took her daughters to BRU to get pics of baby A and big sister E. they pics came out so cute! and it's amazing how much A looks like E!! it makes me wonder if the boys will look alike. i've had this thing that b/c they're fraternal they'll be different completely. 1 like me and 1 like HunHun. hmm.. i guess we'll see..

  • thursday i had my LAST appointment w/ Dr.R - Peri and Dr. S - OBG. it was weird to walk out and KNOW i had no more appts set. :) at the Peri appt we only had a biophysical so the last weights we had were 5.10 & 5.9 at 35+5. so... i'm hoping that by thursday we have at least another lb of weight on these babyboos. and hOops is completely transverse so i made the decision to just go ahead w/ a c/s to avoid having to deliver yOyo vag and POSSIBLY having to delivery hOops w/ emergent c/s if he falls down into my pelvis transverse.. i really wanted to attempt a vag delivery but really from day 1 knowing it was multiples, i knew i'd do whatever was easiest for the 3 of us and don't want hOops stressing while he's in utero waiting to be delivered after his brother - and i'll get back to this down below..... at the OBG, all was the same, not much more dilated, fundal height of 42cm even though it was at 44cm the week before (maybe it's less b/c hOops' position?) and urine looked great, barely swelling - he's super happy we've made it this far and had no major complications. yay!!

  • on friday, HunHun was able to stay home due to no work and we did nothing productive! hahah. just hung out together. it was nice. :)

  • the weekend was pretty much the same. hanging out at home and HunHun was able to work on his car build.

so saturday night was neice I's birthday get together. my sister had cake and finger food at the house for her in-laws and us to pass by and celebrate. she turned 11. unbelievable. she was just in my arms, a tiny baby. wow! ok, back to what i want to blog about. there were quite a few ppl there. from our side, my mom/stepdad, g-ma and uncle and us of course. the in-laws were my BIL's parents, 2 sisters w/ hubbies and kiddies, 4 aunts, 3 cousins. so.. a bunch of ppl and mostly women. and women that haven't seen me in months due to my bedrest. i think the last time the last time they saw me i was like 10 weeks pregnant! a little bump under my shirt. and now... i'm totally out there. i'll see if i can get pics to show a difference..

well, they've also known me since before being a teenager, so they're excited for me. they're happy i'm going to have children and that me and HunHun are doing well for ourselves.

i'll confess that i got crabby on the drive there just thinking about the attention i was going to get. and don't get me wrong. i'm not a shy, loner kind of person. i don't seek attention either, but i'm comfortable in a big group of people and don't feel i lose myself or voice.. but w/ the "novelty" of having twins, my size, first pregnancy, and pending due date i knew i'd be getting some major attention. since i've started to venture out to the market, drugstore, bookstore i get it from neighbors, i could only imagine what ppl i know would be "comfortable" saying and asking.. HunHun told me not to let it get to me before i even got there.. hmm, easier for him to say since he basically stayed w/ 'the boys' most of the evening..

so i get there, find a spot at the counter and it started... of course, the obligatory "omg! look at your stomach! you're huge! wow!" all while their eyes are halfway out of their socket and they're coming toward me to touch me. which thank goodness, i've come to the conclusion of not allowing THAT get to me, b/c if not i'd be miserable the entire pg. ppl do it w/o even noticing i think.. ok, back to the story. "so when are they due? i can't believe you're able to walk! is it heavy? but you LOOK fabulous! it's all belly! when are you going to have them?" and THEN they ask, and how are you doing? which is short-lived b/c they go back to talking among each other, as if i'm not there. comparing me to a twin mom they know, the stories they've heard of people their co-workers know, what they've seen on the tv (J&K+8) and of course now everyone seems to think that i MUST know more details abt the CA octuplets, which honestly, i've tried to not glamourize (as you've noticed i didn't even blog abt it - but think will do this week..). then it's back to touching my belly, rubbing it trying to locate a baby and feel "a kick", while they still talk among each other and i'm trying to keep up .

i think the boys must know or are spunky little boys on momma's side b/c they automatically stop moving when others come to touch my belly. heehee. in fact with all the moving they do ALL the time, they stay still when there are other ppl around and then they go back to playing when no one is rubbing or trying to prod. bwa-ha-ha-ha!!!

well, this went on for more than 30 minutes! me sitting at the counter/bar while at least 4 other women stood around me watching me eat chips and dip and comparing me to other stories they've heard about. at this point, i just nodded my head and chimed in every so often. i was starting to get hungry actually.

i guess soon, they realized that the conversation wasn't about ME anymore, so they switched and started asking "is the room ready? two cribs right? (uhm, not yet) are you packed for the hospital?" which brings me to a comment that was made that i didn't appreciate. i mean seriously.. when i explained i was scheduled to go in on thursday afternoon, they needed all the details, "induction? or a c-section? what time? no... but WHAT TIME will they be born?" WTF?!? what time will they be born? that has to be the oddest question ever! but that's not the comment i was talking about. i explained that i was scheduled for delivery, but that after my last appt i had decided to go w/ a c/s (see above). "omg but why? are you sure?" and then someone else said "oh that's the BEST thing you can do! who wants to push 2 babies out anyway, and besides they come out cuter b/c they don't go through the canal and blah blah blah" i cld see her speaking but i went deaf for a second in amazement of what she was saying! did she just say i should do this so my babies come out cuter?!? i had to stop her and tell her that was the craziest thing i had ever heard! and she tried to defend her statement, but i just interrupted her and told her i wanted to give a go vaginally, but am scared of the time in between both babies being delivered being compromised somehow. and then i stopped, i didn't want to go into detail w/ this chick. i told her i had come to the conclusion that delivering c/s w/ a transverse baby was what "I" considered to be the best for the 3 of us, not to make things easier on ME!!

at that time, the food came out and that was that.. until after everyone ate and then they came back for more.. w/ the inevitable "but WHO has twins in your family??" and i said "no one, we did in vitro, we TRANSFERRED 2 EMBRYOS and they both stuck!" and this i said loud and proud, i'm not ashamed or need them to think it's a big nasty secret 'no one' can know about.. and she answered w/ a "oooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!" as if i had just confirmed her silent thoughts and inquiries. i'm surprised she didn't ask me how much it cost, like other ppl have asked straight out.

so really that's where it ended.. i got up and mingled and after cake and hot chocolate, we went home and poor HunHun had to hear it on the way home. lol.. but the point of the story is, that it gets kind of tiring to get these questions over and over and how ppl just want to define you by your pregnancy. i know and do FEEL they are genuinely excited for me and HunHun, but at times it gets a little too crowded w/ questions and the 'novelty' of multiples. i love those ladies and i respect them, but i guess being this far along in the pregnancy there are days i'm crabby and others i'm not. but honestly, who wouldn't get crabby w/ questions like that?!

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Joy said...

good rant! it feels better to get it out! I am so excited for you Susy! I will be thinking of you on Thursday!

Anonymous said...

I am glad your proud of IVF, so many people just don't understand. I am counting down the days and I will be thinking of you on Thursday. XoXo Jess